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I've had my head buried in the sand for the past few weeks and while this may continue for some time I'm feeling just whimsy enough to make a new post. This coincides with my new blog being banned after only two posts. Who knew I could be that inflammatory??

W-ko's most recent post struck a chord as I actually had a very similar conversation over lunch today with a female co-worker. As a male, is there a problem with your female partner earning more than you do? Same-sex couples are left out of this as it's either girl on girl or two men which disqualifies the cultural intrigue of such a topic.

Being a teacher, I honestly can't remember the last time I dated someone who earned less than me. The last 3 majors were either earning nicely or independently wealthy. Did this bruise my male ego? Not in any significant way. Honestly, I was more of the opinion of 'good luck to them!'. At least I knew that if my whole life and career went down the toilet that they would be able to take care of themselves if I was somehow unable to. That probably sounds wrong. It's not about me taking care of someone financially. I believe that a true partnership requires emotional and spiritual support and perhaps enough money to get by. I may also have been spoiled by growing up around two very successful sisters and failing to see anything wrong with that.

So why do some men take issue with it? I can only skim stones on the water in regard to that, but perhaps it is just a very old skool, ingrained notion that men are the breadwinners and women are at home baking goodies and making babies. I'm guessing noone sent these guys the email explaining that it's the 21st century now and women generally do have careers and lives of their own.

And raising the kiddies myself? Well, I do like the notion of being at home with them. I figure if anyone's going to warp them then it may as well be me.