I received a thank you card today from two very dear friends that got married last October. While it was a very sweet thought and seemingly a rite of passage in the post-marriage cycle, it did get me thinking. The thank you note is an obvious requirement post-ceremony. People come, they share your special day, give you gifts - it really does require a thank you (and let's not get into a Seinfeldian debate on whether this is necessary or not!).
When it comes to anything other than the classroom, I'm by nature a fairly lazy person. Thinking about having to send out thank you notes etc... well... I really couldn't be bothered. I'm not the world's biggest proponent of marriage. Rings don't make love more real, in my opinion. In contrast, I also have no problem with it. It's very possible that I'll end up being married myself someday. Now, I'll pretty much go with the flow regarding whatever Fictional Fiance A wants. If she wants a wedding with people, she can have it. Obviously this goes to a point. I will never ever accept there being many more than 50 people at my wedding, and I would even consider that number large and scary. But you know, it's love, so you do these things. That or hear about it for the rest of your life...
My ideal though? I'd just elope. Get married on an island somewhere. I'd have to invite my parents because my Mum would absolutely freak if I did it. I'm already the quote philosopher/hippy/black sheep unqoute of the family and I figure it would make her happy to be there. Other than that, besides the most immediate and important people that FF A wanted there, it would be a pretty barren little ceremony which would be worry free and a celebration of our love blah blah vomit vomit. So if you feel the need to avoid all the stress and worry and the endless chore that is the post-ceremony publishing/mail empire then I can't see how eloping can fail. Give me a pristine beach on a hidden Thai island anyday!
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I absolutely, utterly agree with you. My dad eloped with my step-mum and I thought it was an awesome thing to do. I hate the idea of spending a house deposit on a massive wedding, and I never will. I'm going to be married in a bright red dress (or a blue one, I'm very open), and there won't be more than a handful of people there.
I have always been a big fan of the idea elopement. This was after observing what my brother had to endure. Not only did he have one wedding but he had two. The first was in Sydney (a small do for family and friends) and then a big one at the Raffles Hotel in Singapore.
A BBQ at the beach will do me. This is based on the very rational reason that the very limited guests don't have to wear shoes and can come barefoot. I hate the idea of people getting all dressed up and feeling uncomfortable at weddings.
I also agree it's a complete waste of monetary resources.
Instead of holding a reception, one of my best friends used the money to rent a house with cottages at Byron Bay and he invited all his closest friends to stay there for the weekend even before the nuptials took at a registry at lunch time in between work!
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